A new-born baby is both fragile and unaccustomed to the outside world, having been ensconced in the mother’s womb, the little one is having to make a rapid and unprecedented level of adjustment to the world outside. Just about everything is new, potentially dangerous, definitely unknown and will definitely require some level of learning & adjustment on the part of the little one.
Likewise, for the parents – especially if they are first timers – the new-born baby presents several new experiences, unknown and sometimes even overwhelming. As much as the baby, the parents themselves are getting used to the baby, its habits, its mannerisms and they will themselves have various questions. And how much ever you might prepare yourself, there is nothing quite like real, hands on parenting.
As a first-time parent especially, there ought to be a few things you must bear in mind as you prepare yourself to taking care of the little one.
- Be calm: Don’t rush to hold the baby, and likewise don’t be in a rush to get rid of it either. Just as you are getting adjusted to the child, the child is equally getting adjusted to you.
- Be aware: There are a lot of things that you can do, to get yourself an idea about new-born behaviour and situations. While, nothing can replace the real-life experience, being aware still gives you a slight edge.
- Be confident: Often, it is our lack of confidence than the actual lack of knowledge that is our undoing. You’ve grown up to be an adult so you sure can take care of a little one. Be confident and don’t let those jitters get the better of you.
- Be patient: Both yourself and with the baby as well. You are bound to get a few things wrong, don’t beat yourself up over it. Learn from your mistakes and you will always be a better parent for it. Also, know that your child has far less experience & understanding of the world around you – so give them time, bear with their crankiness and crying.
- Be open: There is always help around in terms of your own parents, fellow parents, friends, family and well-wishers. Every time you find it difficult or overwhelming, find yourself a confidant to open up and you will always find some good advice.
Remember, that as much as the child needs your love & care, it is not going to judge you for your parenting skills just yet. It is okay to be bad at a few things initially, give yourself time and opportunity to learn, to get better. As your child grows, so will your parenting skills and both of you will be just fine in each other’s company.